How can parents support their children through difficult times?

When students require additional support during their transition to secondary school, the following tips and guidelines for parents and guardians:

Communicate with your Student

  • Ask open-ended questions
  • Discuss issues without lecturing or telling the student what to do
  • Listen to them, and be aware of the language you use
  • Acknowledge their feelings of doubt, depression and homesickness
  • Stay focused on what is really important and critical
  • Avoid the urge to problem solve – focus on fostering independence and offer resources for students to make their own decisions
  • Have confidence in the student’s abilities and ability to cope

Have Realistic Expectations

  • Don’t be surprised if questions are not answered as quickly as you may like
  • Expect a change in academic results ? a significant drop in marks in the first year is common. As students learn new academic skills, their marks will improve
  • Expect changes in behaviour and appearances as the student discovers their new identity
  • Discuss expectations about family participation and involvement for students living at home – Parents and students may have different expectations about what home life will be like. The same applies for residence students who move home or return home for the summer
  • Parents and guardians may also want to examine the expectations they have communicated to the student related to academic performance and success